findom dominatrix verifications
  • April 17, 2017
  • Dirk Hooper
  • 13

FinDoms in particular, or any Dominatrix that does business with the public, may be asked for “verification” at one time or another. The issue of verification most often comes up with someone who is new, and hasn’t established a brand or a following.

If you’ve got years of photos, videos, real-life appearances, and experience, then verification is completely unnecessary. Your feed is your verification.

With that said, everyone has to start somewhere, and doing verification can bring some initial legitimacy to your brand.

I did an online survey with over two-dozen submissives, pay pigs, and some professional dominatrix to give you an idea of what verification is for, why it’s important, and how to do the best verification post.

Reason for Verification

The internet is full of people who steal photos of pretty girls and try to make money pretending to be that person. Fakes and frauds are all over the place. Many pay pigs or submissives, want to know that the person they are sending money or gifts to, is not some dude sitting in his underwear and talking dirty to them.

Furthermore, @RTfindom1 makes this great point, “Knowing a Domme is real adds that comfort. Nobody is going to open up and reveal very discrete information on fantasies and desires to somebody that can’t even be bothered to prove their identity – and they’re definitely not going to send considerable amounts of money either.”

So, not only does verification make a submissive more comfortable and open, it could also mean that you make more money because the submissive trusts you more. Establishing trust, in everything you do, is good brand-building.

How to Make a Great Verification Post

In my survey, almost everyone stressed how important that verification is done by a video post. You can do a photo verification, but photos can be easily PhotoShopped.

Here are the elements included in a great verification post:

  • Clear video with sound
  • Holding a sign that has your name, the date, and your Twitter handle (or other social networking sites)
  • Saying your name and Twitter handle in the video

It’s also easy to prove you’re real if you’re an active member on a cam site, and you might even use that as an opening to a paying session.

One person in the survey said they ask to see a FinDom live on Skype, but I can see how that could be abused by submissives who want to take all your free time without compensation. If you’ve done a clear concise video with all the elements I laid out above, that should be sufficient for most.

Things That Make People Wonder If You’re Real

If you’re getting a lot of requests for a verification post then there must be some things on your profile that suggests that you may be fake. Again, everyone has to start somewhere, and there’s nothing wrong with that, but these are the things that raise red flags for pay pigs.

  • Several people mentioned how much they question profiles with Snapchat filters that do things to the face
  • Snapchat text over a photo
  • Videos with no sound
  • Handwriting on signs that look like it was typed on a computer
  • No face shots
  • New profiles
  • Low number of followers
  • Low engagement on posts
  • Using the same photos over and over and over

Using Verification to Bring You Attention

Verification posts can be a great opportunity to brand yourself and something to add to your regular content plan.

If you do one verification post a month and pin it to the top of your profile it’s a good way to show your current look, update people on what’s happening with you, and solidify your brand.

Another option is to do Fan Signs, or videos, where you pose with a sign that has the name of one of your supporters, or someone you’d like to recognize. If you do these sort of posts regularly (again adding it to your regular content plan) then it will show a variety of photos over time, speak directly to the fact that you’re real, and, as a bonus, will bring you increased attention from your fans.

 

Is Verification for You?

Sometimes, for one reason or another, verification is something that doesn’t fit for you. That’s perfectly fine. Always do YOUR THING. However, realize if you’re not established otherwise, that you’re potentially leaving money and connections on the table.

A quality verification video can quickly establish trust between you and potential submissive, and, can be an opportunity to add good content and establish your brand.

 


Thanks to everyone who took my survey, or talked to me through text or email for this article.

Many chose to be anonymous, but others are listed below.

@chunkysmallcock, @hashtagretard, @Betabitch95, @goddess_laurel, @rtfindom1, @brainwash3dslav

If you have something to add to this article or a comment, please reply in the comments below or contact me directly at [email protected].

 

Dirk Hooper

Dirk Hooper has two decades of experience with adult branding, marketing, social media management, and writing, for his own projects, and professionally for dominatrixes, feature entertainers, models, writers, artists, events, and numerous small businesses. He knows the unique challenges that marketing to adults brings, and he can help you get the attention you deserve.

http://www.dirkhooper.com

13 comments on “The Sexy Networking Guide to FinDom and Dominatrix Verification

  1. Amazing Advice From A Man Who Clearly Truley Knows The Industry. Dirk Has Retweeted A Few Of My Posts And Really Helped Me Build A Platform On Twitter. I do Have A Verification Video And Pics And Plan On Updating As I feel More Comfortable Putting myself out there.!

    Great Advice xxx

    @missphoenix5

  2. Hi Dirk. This post was exactly what I was looking for. So glad it was a first hit on google. Amazing SEO.

    I am a cam model with previous sub affinities (switch actually) and shows, and recently I had a lovely femdom experience which I want to explore more and offer related content – which made me think how to do it properly. From (re)branding to positioning on social media etc. Without stepping on ppls toes or lookingn fake.

    The post was amazing. Super detailed, nice and relatable. Again – thank you so much!

  3. Hi Dirk, wanted to know what you think is the best place to make a website for a findom is? I use moonfruit at the moment but it’s not really getting the following I want, any help appreciated x

    1. In my opinion, the best place to do your website is buying your own URL and installing WordPress on the site. It’s easy to learn and easy to update and anyone can do it. Even if you pay someone to create the site you can take over afterwards and keep the site alive.

  4. Hey Dirk Hooper
    I have a question ….

    How on earth do you stay anonymous when your showing your face on a verification video? Like an you wear sunglasses lol… I’m really in two minds/ confused about this…?

    BW , Bella

    1. Again, you have to do what’s right for you. If you want to stay anonymous then you’ll have to do one of the things you mentioned or get more creative. It might be enough that they can hear your voice, or see that the figure in the photos is the figure talking to them. And verification might not be for you. Don’t be tempted to do something you don’t want to.

  5. I’ve been at it this life since 2004 under another name, there always comes a time one might want to re-invent their persona. Been using what is seen currently since 2008, however i have started posted more and becoming more active in the lifestyle since the pandemic. Therefor a few of my profiles might seem “New” to some, but it has never been questioned.
    If ever it is i will re-direct my subbies to feedback & reviews that is posted about me on well known websites.

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